In today's world worries are endless and
in fact a simple breakup becomes a big problem to get over at a particular
point of time. It took me a hell lot of time to get over my first break up. I
was in complete depression. I stopped talking to my friends; I stopped
responding to my family members and became an absolute robotic creature. I just
wanted to get over it at any cost and that's how I started with analyzing the
things which will make me strong enough to get over it. Here are few simple
things each and every person can adopt in his or her life to get over a
relationship and make a new beginning but remember getting over something
doesn't always mean that you have to start with a newer one:
1. Start spending good time with family
members
The best way to let things go is to
give time to the things or to the people whom who have ignored while being in
that relationship and the first people whom you ignored were your parents.
Start giving time to your parents , start listening to them and their feelings
as you will get to know many new things which you missed while being in that
relationship. You will get to know that there was so much in the hearts of your
parents which they wanted to say and share with you when you were busy with
your own world be it be worthy enough or not. You will realize that you family
is your biggest strength. No matter how much you have faced in that
relationship or no matter how much this world has criticized you, your parents
are the ones who loves you the way you are. So start loving your family more
than you did before and give that part of love to your family which you shared
with that guy or girl.
2. Make books your friend
There is nothing new while saying that
books are our best friends and especially at a time when your dearest one has
left you, books are the ones which can empathize with you while being quiet and just
giving you lessons without even speaking what majority of us love when we are
in trauma. We don't want anyone to even come near to us and sympathies when we
want to be left alone. It's better that despite of locking yourself in a dark
room just buy some novels or fictions or motivational life changing books and
start reading them. Trust me books are the biggest healers.
3. Rock music
Till when you are going to miss that
person who did not understand your emotions and left you crying and begging
and asking him/ her to come back in your life? Oh Comon he/ she did not deserve
your love nor your tears. Just start with a fresh life again. No more tears, no
more regrets and no more thoughts related to your past. Just bang on with new
and rocking music. Remember music can change the mood and so can change the world.
Music makes us feel relaxed and takes us to a different world. I remember my
favorite music during the days of my breakup. They were just emotional shits
which used to make me miss him even more and then I decided to switch to
rocking and some motivational music. Believe me it helped me a lot and it
really does help everybody. Music is the real stress buster. It connects you
with your inner soul and at last with music you start enjoying with yourself.
This makes you really busy with yourself.
4. Let it go and start loving yourself.
Remember no one will love you and respect
you until you love yourself and respect yourself. Start admiring yourself as you
are one of the beautiful things god has made. Let the past rest in peace and
start afresh not with anyone else but with yourself. Start loving yourself and
gain that lost confidence. Give yourself some time, dress up well, party hard,
spend time with good friends , express yourself, laugh loudly, act childishly
and do all such things which makes you happier than ever before. Especially do
such things which your ex stopped you from doing but you loved to do that like
being stupid or immature at times and allowing people to laugh at you or with
you with your kiddish acts.
5. Spend time with yourself and groom
yourself.
If you want to think and take it as revenge
you can but for the satisfaction of your soul start working on yourself and
start making yourself a better person one can spend time with. Read books
related to personality development. Personality development doesn't necessarily
mean how to walk, eat, stand or walk. It means how to behave wisely and
pleasantly with people and make people feel good when they are with you. Start
using nice gestures which makes you feels good about yourself. Start making
others happy by doing some good deeds. Believe me or not making other happy
really boosts up the confidence and you start cherishing your life. Be thankful
to god that he has given you a life worth cherishing and you are worthy enough
to help someone and make someone happy. No matter who made you sad, making
someone happy makes you a better person and on a selfish note you get some
blessings as well.
6. Don't ever run and crave for a mender.
You are your real reliever. No one ever in
this world can heal your pains if you yourself can't. Don't ever run for a
mender who will come into your life and listen to your past story and then you
will put your head on his/ her shoulder and cry. And if so please don't end up
with this melodrama of falling in love with each other. I mean in some cases
it might work. But please stop asking for help and a reliever from here and
there. In such situations of course a bff can understand your situation but a
stranger might be just interested in getting laid in such emotional situations.
So stop being weak in front of the world. Face the world with a brighter
smile.
7. Stop complaining about your past in
front of everybody
The worst thing a person does is
complaining about past. I mean ok fine you have some close friends in front of
whom you can talk about your past. But talking about it everywhere? Frankly
speaking you will lose respect for yourself in front of others. People will
start ignoring you and start feeling pity about you. Stop it!
8. Watch movies.
For god's sake stop watching those
emotional shits. I mean grow up and start watching some intelligent, action or
thriller movie. It really helps in distracting your mind from those pathetic
melodramas and makes you feel better and think in a different way. You get
rejuvenated and start looking the world from a different perspective. Believe
me watching a good movie really helps a lot.
9. Start giving time to other things what
you love doing
I love writing and reading. Start
following your hobbies and making this world a fun place to live. Start being
imaginative and follow your dreams. A breakup sometimes helps in a positive way
and you start concentrating more on the work you do. You need not to over load
yourself with work but you can focus more on your work and your hobbies now
apart from just chatting and fighting on trivial matters.
10. For god's sake don't stop
smiling.
A genuine smile can win billions of
hearts. And smiling is the biggest way to defeat your enemies. Take it any
which ways but for god's sake don't stop smiling. Be it a small reason to a
bigger one don't loose your smile. It makes you feel better as well as the one
standing in front of you feel good. And at the end of the day if you want to
remain fit you have to smile and that too from the bottom of the heart.
11. At last don't forget to give it back
to that bastard.
Apart from the above mentioned points, the
best way if you are still dwelling into the past is to confront that person and
say whatever you want to say. Shout at him/ her, cry, scold, do whatever you
want to do like Kareena kapoor of jab
we met. It works, it really
works. My friend suggested this to me and believe me when I did it and when I
started saying things to my ex, I ended up feeling relaxed. I felt great. I
knew there were things which were disturbing me all day and night whenever I
used to be free and I genuinely wanted to say and yell like hell in front of
him. I did and now I am much happier than I was before. At least he/she should
understand how much it hurts when you are being dumped or when it doesn't works
out. Say whatever was there in your heart. One positive point would be he/she
is no longer there in your life and now you are not afraid of a mere break up anymore.
So don't hesitate and make your soul free from your past.
